After going through a break up, i hid myself away, literally only leaving the house to do the school run, i was broken and damaged and just felt alone! I was miles away from my family and friends had their own lives, or thats the excuse i created in my mind to make it ok to shut everyone out! If it hadn’t been for a small circle of close friends, selflessly checking on me, encouraging me to get back out into the real world, i’d more than likely still be that reclusive, miserable woman i’d become.
We all go through tough times, but when you have people around you, people that genuinely care about how you’re feeling, what you’re thinking, it can make the world of difference. Since starting my business, i have been networking with hundreds of new people over the year, i have witnessed some being treated like rubbish by friends and family, for choosing to be a part of network marketing, i have seen others treating people so disrespectfully, by cold messaging them without a hello, or How are you? This is not good business and it is not the way genuine, caring people behave.
When you start a business, YES you want to make sales and make your business a success, but what should be more important, is being of value to people, bringing something to peoples lives that makes them smile, or feel good about themselves. Talking to people, or adding them on social media for personal gain is just wrong! Just today i posted a positive status on facebook and people thanked me for posting it, that it was something they really needed to hear and that made me so happy! To some, that may seem like a minor thing, what’s the big deal? It’s just 2 people! Yes it’s just 2 people, but that’s 2 people that needed to hear something positive and in reading my post, felt better, even just a little.
It’s a great feeling, knowing you’ve made even the slightest difference to a persons day, that is what networking and being a good person is all about, whether it’s just wanting to meet new friends for business or pleasure, it should always be about bringing value and happiness to peoples lives, not about what you can get from them! Show some integrity and let your actions and words be compassionate and genuine, not false and insincere, people know, not always right away, but eventually they see through all the fake bs and will close the door on any hope of friendship or a business relationship.
There are 3 ways to bring value to peoples lives…
- Accept them for who they are, never pass judgement! We all have a past, a story, but they shouldn’t define the people we are now.
2. Value them, details are important, care about how they think and feel.
3. Attention is key, pay attention to what people have to say, give the right attention to people, when people get necessary attention, it makes them..us, feel special
Final thought- Treat everyone with kindness and respect, even those that are rude to you, just because they have no integrity, doesn’t mean you have to lose yours, life can be a cold and lonely place sometimes and you never really know what’s going on in peoples lives behind closed doors, be genuine, be humble and be kind! Thank you for reading xoxo